Woman’s Boundaries Disrespected When Her Brother Shows Up to Her House With Estranged Father, She Kicks Them Both Out, Causing Family Drama

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    r/AITAH 18 hr. ago No-Refrigerator-2952 AITAH for kicking my brother out of my home after he invited our estranged father over without asking me?
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    I (28F) have been estranged from my father (55M) for the last 10 years. He was abusive growing up, and after years of therapy and healing, I made the decision to cut him out of my life completely. My brother (24M), however, has always maintained a relationship with him, and while I don't agree with it, I've tried to respect their
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    bond. I've made it clear, though, that I do not want him in my life, and I don't want to hear about him.
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    A few weeks ago, my brother visited me at my house. We were hanging out when he suddenly mentioned that he was planning to bring our dad over to "patch things up" with me. I was shocked and told him that under no circumstances should our father be coming to my home. I even made it clear that I wasn't interested in talking to him, ever.
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    Fast forward to yesterday—my brother shows up with our dad. I was furious. I immediately told them both to leave and that my brother had completely disrespected my boundaries. My brother tried to apologize, saying he just wanted to fix things and thought this was the best way to do it. I told him he had no right
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    to make that decision for me and that I never wanted to see our father again.
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    My brother left, but he's now texting me, saying I overreacted and that he was just trying to help me heal. He says it's not fair to cut off the chance for reconciliation. I'm feeling really torn, because while I know I'm within my rights to not want him in my life, I also don't want to ruin my relationship with my
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    brother. But at the same time, my boundaries are important to me. So, AITA for kicking my brother out of my house and refusing to talk to our father?
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    Dipshitistan ⚫18h ago • NTA, and I'm quite certain you know this. I'd go a step farther. "If you EVER try a stunt even remotely like that again, you can find out what it's like to be cut out of my life completely."
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    Bloodystupidj... 18h ago. NTA. You made it clear that you didn't want to meet with your dad. He ignored you. In no way did you overreact.
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    J • 18h ago Edited 16h ago • tried to apologize, saying he just wanted to fix things and thought this was the best way to do it That's not an apology, he is not trying to apologize, he is trying to excuse himself.
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    I overreacted You are reacted exactly the way you warned him you were going to react. I also don't want to ruin my relationship with my brothe
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    Well, you gave your brother. all the information he needs in order to not ruin the relationships with you. You can try to make the idea you don't want to have to do anything with your father penetrate his skull again, but first I suggest you to lay out the consequences of him not listening.
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    Single_serve_c... • 18h ago Fun fact: you don't have to ever forgive your abusers.
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    HazMcBaz21 18h ago • Nope, you don't want to patch things with someone who caused you trauma and put you in therapy, your brother should respect that and understand your decision, bringing someone or something that caused you damage back into your life isn't going to heal jack.
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    marv115 18h ago • You tell him that he keep choosing your abuser over you, your boundouries are there for a reason, that you have never made him choose so why does he choose for you?
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    KaetzenOrkester • 18h ago Your brother's pushing his own agenda, or perhaps he's acting as a sock puppet for your father. Regardless he's clearly not listening to you and stomping on boundaries. NTA.
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    Fibro-Mite 18h ago • NTA. As a daughter who finally went no contact with her own father quite late in life, because of listening to so many people telling me "but he's your dad. It's family. You need to forgive him!" While he was still being emotionally and
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    verbally abusive (he'd stopped hitting me the day I tried to hit him back when I was 18). I would say you are well within your rights to kick out anyone who disrespects your boundaries when it comes to how you want to deal with an abusive parent. Your brother needs to butt the f out of your
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    non-relationship with your father. He has chosen his side, he gets to deal with the consequences of his actions.
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    Odd Welcome... • 18h ago • Ask him who it's not fair to.... NTA

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